You probably wondering WHY I want to give up ALL-A-DIS for a small frame. Its pretty simple
"ke batla kgo apara stomach out"/ "I want to be able to wear a crop top".
FINISH 'N KLAAR/ FULL STOP.
All my life I had-tz ta fight, yes that is from "The Colour Purple" *Oprah says that to Whoopi after her altercation with Harpo* _ oOhhhh I love that movie but back to the blog.
All my life I've had to fight the edge to say "voeksak, bumba ke maw" (piss off, yo momma is the fat one) doesn't sound so cool in english ne? Anyway whether it was a bus packed with school kids, a taxi with off duty drivers or even random passer-by's, all of them seems to have an opinion about my weight. Even family members I haven't seen in years always had something to say, the conversation would always start with, "aowoooo khomotso gape o se dutla"(oh but Khomotso you are fat) i never knew how to respond to that except to say I'm happy, not that I wasn't but just to move the conversation along. Think about it, what do you say when someone says "you have grown so fat"?
Truth is as much as being big and meaty is "African", its a hard imagine to keep. Today we are known as "plus size", "full figured", "bootylicious", "voluptuous", "vavatious" and all these seemingly "sugar coated" words that are supposed to make us content and happy mara the truth is, its not fun being big.
For instance I've had to worry about things that don't seem to bother the next person, like worrying about whether the seat belt on the plane will fit me or not, what do i say when an old friend runs into me with my "Maybe Baby" clothing items hanging out of my basket? If i stay to long at the buffet table would you judge me?
Most people would say "Gosh this chick is insecure" well of course I am, in the society that we are living in who isn't? Another would say "you must be comfortable in your own body" well there is no such thing.You try not breaking a sweat while trying to reach your toe nails just to paint em, because between the "sbejeje" (muffin top) and the big stomach, bending down to reach down is strenuous! So don't tell me about insecurities we all have them, comfort is a luxury i can't afford.
This blog is for me, so that I can remember where I came from, I am on a journey to get my body back on track, even if it means loosing half of my body weight to get there, this is a road I am taking. Over the next few months this will be my journey documented here so that you can laugh a me and not at another FAT girl you see because your life is all peaches and cream.